Sometimes arguments and disagreements can be a thorn when you’re trying to build a strong relationship or marriage, but do you FIGHT FAIR? Many times in the middle of a heated exchange, we say or do things that we regret and it can cause a damaging effect on your relationship. Learning how to FIGHT FAIR isn’t something that just happens, you have to skillfully and consciously practice it.
When we are hurt by what someone says or does, our first instinct is to fight back and hurt them just as they hurt us. Harsh words or actions are at your doorstep and if you can control your emotions, speak in love or walk away, you will see the fruit of a strong relationship/marriage developing right before your eyes.
I’ve been guilty of this myself and as I continue to mature, I realize the damage it has caused and I want to be a better example to my wife, family and friends of how to FIGHT FAIR no matter the circumstances. So take an account of your words and actions when you’re feeling attacked or hurt, exercise temperance and be the bigger person.
HINT: James 3: 2-10, Proverbs 18:21 and Galatians 5:22-23
Love you guys, see you next week….